Uhhh... life

Hi. Curiosity here.


My life has been feeling empty lately. Even with new classmates, new things and shit, the past keeps lingering into my mind.

I had gone through an argument with a friend of mine (whom i had been close to since last year) a few weeks ago. I tried to explain myself to her, but i was too late to make up a response to her and what came was her blocking me and avoiding me ever since. We are also now classmates in our new class, which made it a whole lot more awkward.

I had already forgiven her, though im pretty sure shes still holding a grudge against me as of now and im uncertain if she would stop holding that grudge. I was thinking of trying to talk to her, but im hesitant because the situation would get worse.

Ever since that day, I sometimes feel worthless, like im just nothing to people. Im pretty sure that nobody would remember me if i ever vanish and they would move on pretty quickly.

Im also introverted, which makes it hard to try and socialize with other people. She was pretty much the only girl who ever tried to talk to me (she approached me first). After she left, I closed off more and more and i feel like my walls are getting higher and higher. I hide the emptiness behind a stoic mask (yes, ik it sounds cringy), sometimes my classmate would ask me on what was i doing (I usually just stare up ahead most of the time or lay back in my chair with a blank face and shit).

It still hurts, it keeps lingering, i tried to distract myself, i tried to move on, but it still lingers no matter how hard i tried.


I apologize if there are any sentences that dont make sense here, as english isnt my first language and that im writing whatever is in my mind rn

i feel like going insane as of writing this

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uhhhh. ok

tbh i felt like this is way too normal for an everyday conflict

just keep being urself, its not that bad if you guys moved on

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I’ll just say this so no one has to: we’re not the best people when it comes to life advice, and you also shouldn’t trust our advice 100% but you can vent to take off some weight, i personally read all posts except vehicle suggestions and bug reports.

Anyways to me it seems like you’re overthinking it
Arguments can happen and they will happen, you can’t avoid that.. but you can cope. They can only be so bad, I’m sure she also has similar feelings if you’ve been close friends, so she might just listen to you and give you a chance to respond.
These are friendships in teenage years after all and i personally wouldn’t expect much from someone after an argument, you know a person “reveals their true colors” when angry, i usually (not that conflicts happen usually) hold back my tongue and listen to who that person really is (now we don’t know the argument and what it was about and that’s best kept secret for your privacy).
I recommend doing physical work to shake off feelings, like a gym or whatever. I’m pretty lucky in this case because my dad’s a farmer so i just help him, it rids me of boredom and makes me feel accomplished.

don’t go insane pls

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honestly from past experiences, I’d say to try your damn hardest to move on, even if it’s really difficult

if you keep on dwelling about it, whatever you’re thinking about will only get worse once you start to remember a few things more than you should’ve, there’s plenty of other people to talk to

I’m not the best at giving advice, but this is what has worked with me in the past

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I normally don’t respond to posts like this but take this with a grain of salt because I very seldom interact with women for reasons I will not disclose. I do business with them (mechanic work) and general interaction but I do not socialize with them. I have some time on my hands today so I’ll offer a nice chunk of advice.

Take this with another grain of salt because I am optimized for solitary life to some extent compared to a lot of people.

I don’t know fully how she treats you, but I’m assuming you’re a lot younger than me (22)
Ladies in the younger age bracket tend to act like entitled children when things don’t go their way. Not to sound sexist here, as guys of that age also have that problem but women much more so. Not necessarily abnormal, women are much more emotional/emotion dependent folk than guys are. It’s one of the things that sets them apart from us guys…and, when used properly, is a great gift that they have (unless they use it wrongly…in that case, you are better off walking through a desert than being around her). But when younger, they have very poor control over their emotions even over trivial arguments. This leads to them to be very prone to holding grudges even over small things. Don’t take it to heart brother. Walk away and give her some room. What I said however does not excuse her (or any other’s) behavior in such context. She needs to learn to let go and forgive instead of being stuck up, assuming it was over something trivial but even still, my point stands.
I don’t know what the argument was about, nor is it my business, but I’ve done some pretty horrible stuff in my life (will not disclose) and I am guessing that by comparison the argument was over something trivial.
Something like this is an example of…prepare yourself…h u m a n I t y. Humanity meaning, human mistakes. Everybody makes mistakes. if this is the case and it wasn’t something exceptionally personal or threatening, she needs to get off her high horse and grow the hell up. people make mistakes. God forgives us for multitude of mistakes from trivial to debilitating.
We need to learn to do the same for one another, UNLESS doing so would harm ourselves or others.

Good on you for forgiving her but if she is malicious in intent, do not give her control.

As to feeling worthless, you are not worthless. God loves you in spite of everything. I’m sure also family or someone cares for you.
But NEVER EVER let a woman strip you of emotional integrity. They can be very exhausting to deal with but don’t. I know it’s hard especially when you are predisposed to anxiety or depression (I used to be that way) but sometimes they use that as a weapon against you.
At the end of the day, we don’t need women. We literally don’t. We don’t need a friendship or relationship with them. Our lives or well being doesn’t depend on it. I am not accusing you here, just putting things into perspective.

if you center your life around a woman…good OR not, your character will begin to unravel.
If she is malicious, she may be being silent or unforgiving in order for you to “chase” her. Another trait of women is that they enjoy being chased or pursued. This can either be a harmless thing–being chased romantically, etc but when malicious they do it to feed their ego or to gather attention or justify their psyche, habits, or actions. So it is good that you are careful to talk to her again as that can be like walking through a minefield. You are above her little game brother. Don’t fall for it. But on the flip side, women often interpret no talking as hostility. Try talking to her. Worst she can say is no. She has no power over you.
If she says no, wish her the best and move on. Forgive and forget.

Again, take this with grains of salt because I do not trouble myself with dating (if you want my honest opinion, don’t even bother its not worth the trouble…even though there are good people in the world, its still not worth it imo). Dating isn’t in my blood. Even if an excellent person tried me, they would have a hell of a lot of convincing to do.

All of this advice is based off of others experienced that I have witnessed, and books and articles that I have read. The personal experience from me is little to none.
I am very simple and don’t find happiness in dating and whatnot. Just working on vehicles, riding my quad, going to church, and being a gym rat.

Sometimes though, silence is the best thing. Out of all the options I have offered to you, I cannot recommend any particular one because I have not the experience.
Hope this helps :)

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Also, as the others said, sometimes the best thing to do is move on. if my advice brings you to talk to her again and she shuts you down, just walk away. Walk away and if she tries to come back into your life, act like she doesn’t exist.

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There is a lot of text here

(I did read the whole topic)