I normally don’t respond to posts like this but take this with a grain of salt because I very seldom interact with women for reasons I will not disclose. I do business with them (mechanic work) and general interaction but I do not socialize with them. I have some time on my hands today so I’ll offer a nice chunk of advice.
Take this with another grain of salt because I am optimized for solitary life to some extent compared to a lot of people.
I don’t know fully how she treats you, but I’m assuming you’re a lot younger than me (22)
Ladies in the younger age bracket tend to act like entitled children when things don’t go their way. Not to sound sexist here, as guys of that age also have that problem but women much more so. Not necessarily abnormal, women are much more emotional/emotion dependent folk than guys are. It’s one of the things that sets them apart from us guys…and, when used properly, is a great gift that they have (unless they use it wrongly…in that case, you are better off walking through a desert than being around her). But when younger, they have very poor control over their emotions even over trivial arguments. This leads to them to be very prone to holding grudges even over small things. Don’t take it to heart brother. Walk away and give her some room. What I said however does not excuse her (or any other’s) behavior in such context. She needs to learn to let go and forgive instead of being stuck up, assuming it was over something trivial but even still, my point stands.
I don’t know what the argument was about, nor is it my business, but I’ve done some pretty horrible stuff in my life (will not disclose) and I am guessing that by comparison the argument was over something trivial.
Something like this is an example of…prepare yourself…h u m a n I t y. Humanity meaning, human mistakes. Everybody makes mistakes. if this is the case and it wasn’t something exceptionally personal or threatening, she needs to get off her high horse and grow the hell up. people make mistakes. God forgives us for multitude of mistakes from trivial to debilitating.
We need to learn to do the same for one another, UNLESS doing so would harm ourselves or others.
Good on you for forgiving her but if she is malicious in intent, do not give her control.
As to feeling worthless, you are not worthless. God loves you in spite of everything. I’m sure also family or someone cares for you.
But NEVER EVER let a woman strip you of emotional integrity. They can be very exhausting to deal with but don’t. I know it’s hard especially when you are predisposed to anxiety or depression (I used to be that way) but sometimes they use that as a weapon against you.
At the end of the day, we don’t need women. We literally don’t. We don’t need a friendship or relationship with them. Our lives or well being doesn’t depend on it. I am not accusing you here, just putting things into perspective.
if you center your life around a woman…good OR not, your character will begin to unravel.
If she is malicious, she may be being silent or unforgiving in order for you to “chase” her. Another trait of women is that they enjoy being chased or pursued. This can either be a harmless thing–being chased romantically, etc but when malicious they do it to feed their ego or to gather attention or justify their psyche, habits, or actions. So it is good that you are careful to talk to her again as that can be like walking through a minefield. You are above her little game brother. Don’t fall for it. But on the flip side, women often interpret no talking as hostility. Try talking to her. Worst she can say is no. She has no power over you.
If she says no, wish her the best and move on. Forgive and forget.
Again, take this with grains of salt because I do not trouble myself with dating (if you want my honest opinion, don’t even bother its not worth the trouble…even though there are good people in the world, its still not worth it imo). Dating isn’t in my blood. Even if an excellent person tried me, they would have a hell of a lot of convincing to do.
All of this advice is based off of others experienced that I have witnessed, and books and articles that I have read. The personal experience from me is little to none.
I am very simple and don’t find happiness in dating and whatnot. Just working on vehicles, riding my quad, going to church, and being a gym rat.
Sometimes though, silence is the best thing. Out of all the options I have offered to you, I cannot recommend any particular one because I have not the experience.
Hope this helps :)